Self Help Portal 4 U

TEDxSF – Louie Schwartzberg – Gratitude Wow great video! One of my personal habits I have used for over the past 20 years in watching, reading, and listening to inspiration. I believe that what you focus on, you become and I have been focusing on inspiration, to inspire myself to feel happiness, joy, and gratitude. [...]

“What you think about yourself is much more important than what others think of you.” – Marcus Annaeus Seneca When you think of personal empowerment, you probably think of qualities like strength, confidence, courage and tenacity – but did you know that self-love is also an important aspect of empowerment? When you truly love yourself [...]

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson Part of being an empowered person is having intimate knowledge and awareness of yourself as an individual, including your strengths, talents, weaknesses, capabilities and limitations. How well do you know yourself?  You’d be surprised [...]

The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. ~Sonya Friedman Living your life as an empowered person often requires the placement of boundaries – invisible “lines” across which you will not allow people or events to infringe upon your time or resources. When you have clear inner boundaries in place, you know where [...]

When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.-Catherine Ponder One stumbling block that can prevent you from feeling empowered is the inability to forgive – both others and [...]

When comes down to it there is what you do and what you don’t the choice is yours!-Wendy Mickle When it comes to making decisions, a chronic sense of disempowerment often results in feelings of helplessness or hopelessness that can affect the choices you make and determine your quality of life. When you live your [...]

“Be the change you want to see and feel by empowering your self” Personal empowerment often plays a big role in the quality of your relationships because of the beliefs and behaviors you express in your interactions with others.  If you’ve ever expected a relationship to somehow “complete” you or make you feel strong or [...]

 I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.-William Allen White Do you ever allow fearful thoughts to erode your confidence and diminish your sense of empowerment?  It’s a common trend for many people, and when you’re stuck in the midst of fear and uncertainty it can seem like [...]

“Empower yourself today and in-turn you will empower the world tomorrow”-Wendy Mickle The way you speak to yourself mentally and verbally has a powerful impact on your self-image.  Berating or belittling yourself, minimizing your achievements or doubting your capabilities will most definitely create a sense of disempowerment, limiting your potential in virtually every aspect of [...]

When it comes to personal empowerment, feeling strong and grounded is crucial.  Without a perception of yourself as strong and resilient, you’ll find yourself cowering in the face of challenges; feeling intimidated by other people, and weighed down by your own fears and insecurities. A strong person, on the other hand, knows that he or [...]

      Vision is the art of seeing the invisible. -Johnathan Swift Creative visualization is the process of generating images in your mind, and is often used as a tool for self-improvement and stress relief. Athletes, celebrities and successful people from all walks of life have touted visualization as an effective way to improve performance, enhance [...]

The future belongs to those who see possibilities before they can become obvious. -John Scully If you’ve ever felt stuck and unsure what to do to improve your life, you’re familiar with the challenge of being short on possibilities!  Most often when this happens you’re not really short on possibilities, but rather your mind isn’t [...]

I can teach anyone how to get what ever they want out of life. The problem is that I can’t find anyone who can tell me what they want. -Mark Twain Do you ever feel uncertain about your purpose in life, or wonder if there’s something more you should be doing?  Feelings like this are [...]

           Visualization is the key to unlocking stubborn limiting beliefs. – Wendy Mickle It’s easy to overlook the power of limiting beliefs and spend years wondering why you can’t seem to move forward and make lasting changes in your life.  Though you might have grand dreams of living a better life, limiting beliefs will keep [...]

  Others inspire us, information feeds us, practice improves our performance, but we need quiet time to figure things out, to emerge with new discoveries, to unearth original answers. -Ester Buchhole Visualization can be a powerful tool to help you improve your life circumstances, but it can also serve as a handy technique for transforming [...]

        Let your intuition be the light and see the strengthen within. -Wendy Mickle Your intuition can be a powerful guide in any situation, helping you to avoid dangerous and detrimental experiences – or even leading you to the best opportunities to improve your life. However, as with any skill, the strength and intensity of [...]

                 The only way to predict the future is to have the power to shape it. -Eric Hofer Visualization can be a powerful tool to help you improve your current circumstances, but it can also help you to be more purposeful about moving toward a brighter future.  This can be especially effective if you often [...]

        You are in control of your feelings even though sometimes it does not feel like it. -Wendy Mickle Have you ever felt stuck in a bad mood and couldn’t seem to let it go no matter what you did?  At times like this it seems like everything around you just keeps going wrong, exacerbating [...]

Lack of confidence has the power to cause great problems in your life, not only because it makes you feel powerless and out of control, but also because it triggers you to act in ways that are usually counterproductive to what you want to accomplish.  You’ll find yourself shying away from challenges, procrastinating on goals [...]

Visualization can be used for a wide range of purposes, but one of the most beneficial is making yourself feel prosperous and attract more money into your life.  You may wonder how seeing simple images in your mind can help attract anything – but when you think about it, a consistent focus on lack causes [...]

   If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it. -Olin Miller You may be familiar with the concept that everything you do has a payoff, and procrastination is no different!  Though it may not seem likely that such a problematic habit could have a payoff, when [...]

     Procrastination is, hands down, our favorite form of self-sabotage.-Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby Procrastination can be a sticky problem to overcome because you avoid taking action at all costs, which leaves you feeling even more frightened or intimidated – which causes you to procrastinate even more!  Eventually you find yourself caught in a vicious circle; wanting [...]

Procrastination usually results in sorrowful regret. Today’s duties put off tomorrow give us a double burden to bear; the best way is to do them in their proper time.-Ida Scott Taylor Have you ever found yourself putting things off without knowing why?  Everyone does this to a certain degree, but it can be frustrating when [...]

We must be diligent today. To wait until tomorrow is too late. Death comes unexpectedly. How can we bargain with it? -The Buddha Scattered and confused thoughts are common contributors to procrastination because it’s difficult to stay on track when you don’t have a clear focus.  You end up either wasting time with untargeted actions [...]

            Get tough, Get determined,Get angry and stomp out procrastination! -Wendy Mickle A strong habit of procrastination can leave a lot of destruction in its wake, so it can be helpful to be firm and unyielding with the techniques you use to conquer it.  When it comes right down to it, you can analyze the [...]

There are two sides to everything! Most of us are used to thinking of procrastination as a negative thing, but did you know that there are sometimes benefits to procrastination?  It’s true!  Procrastination can be used constructively if you do it in a conscious manner. Below are a few ideas for how to do so [...]

    Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves. -Dale Carnegie. Procrastination can quickly create a logjam of unfinished business in all areas of your life, including financial crises, relationship problems, chronic underachievement, physical illness and more. There are many ways to deal with procrastination, but one of the most [...]

       Awareness is the key to everything you need and want in life! -Wendy Mickle Procrastination can often grow to monstrous proportions in your life, but sometimes it can be much more subtle too.  Perhaps you don’t have huge, messy snarls in all areas of your life due to procrastination, but is it possible that [...]

Perhaps the most valuable result of all education is the ability to make yourself do the thing you have to do, when it ought to be done, whether you like it or not. – Thomas Huxley Have you ever noticed how sneaky procrastination can be?  It’s incredibly easy to fool ourselves into thinking that we’re [...]

     You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. -Martin Luther King Jr. One damaging aspect of procrastination is the way it tends to snowball and build a chronic sense of stagnation and inertia in your life.  It usually starts innocently enough: you try to avoid doing one thing that [...]

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.-Agnes Repplier When you think of being happy, you probably think about external factors in your life, such as having a comfortable place to live, money to fund your lifestyle, and more.  While those things can certainly contribute [...]

When I am happy, I see the happiness in others. When I am depressed, I notice that people’s eyes look sad. When I am weary, I see the world as boring and unattractive.- Steve Chandler When it comes to feeling happy and content, your attitude plays an important role.  A negative attitude keeps you focused [...]

A clean space leads to a clean mind and a clear heart.-Wendy Mickle In our ongoing quest for happiness and contentment, we often find ourselves accumulating ever increasing piles of “stuff.”  However, the more “stuff” we accumulate, the more we begin to realize that we don’t feel happier at all; we feel overwhelmed, crowded and [...]

             Be helpful.When you see a person without a smile, Give him yours -Zig Ziglar Are you yearning for a greater sense of happiness in your life but feel weighed down by problems?  If so, try adopting an attitude of lightheartedness and watch how quickly it can inject an element [...]

“True happiness consists in making happy.” Bharavi’s Kiratarjuniya, Hindu There are many ways to create a greater sense of happiness in your life, but one of the simplest and most powerful is by giving to others.  Why does giving to others make you feel happier? • You minimize your own troubles. Focusing on what you can [...]

           Just as a candle cannot burn without fire man cannot live without spiritual life. -Buddha When you’re striving to create a greater sense of happiness in your life, paying attention to your spiritual practice may be beneficial because it’s often been purported that spiritual people are generally happier than people without a defined [...]

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. -John F. Kennedy A daily practice of gratitude can help keep you feeling happy more often, simply because gratitude smooths the rough edges in your life and keeps you focused on the [...]

   When you are worrying you can’t be Happy. When you are happy you can’t be worrying!-Wendy Mickle If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by worry, you know how difficult it is to feel happy at the same time.  Worry and happiness are by nature complete opposites; they cannot co-exist.  When you worry, you’re focusing more [...]

  Have a Balanced life is the true key to happiness! -Wendy Mickle When striving to create a greater sense of happiness in your life, the power of living a balanced life should not be overlooked.  An unbalanced, chaotic lifestyle is one sure way to create stress, fear and dissatisfaction in all areas of your [...]

Happiness comes when you believe in what you are doing, know what you are doing, and love what you are doing. -Brian Tracy When you think of being happy with your life, you probably imagine specific circumstances that will make you feel content and satisfied.  You might see yourself with a better job, more money, [...]

Success is not final and failure is not fatal it the courage to continue that counts! Church hill When you think of success, do you immediately picture monetary wealth, luxury homes, and fancy cars?  Do you think of the respect and prestige you’ll receive when you’ve made your mark on the world?  Or perhaps you [...]

    Success is a science, if you have the right conditions, you will get the result -Oscar Wilde One reason many people struggle to become successful is because they don’t have a clear vision of what they want to accomplish.  They may have vague ideas of the benefits they’d like to gain, like more money [...]

But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job. -Daniel Goleman When you first set a goal it’s pretty easy [...]

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. -Anais Nin Have you ever noticed a theme with successful people?  Nine times out of ten, there was a risk involved and the person needed to take a chance in order to [...]

      If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary. -Jim Rohn Do you expect to be successful?  Or do you spend much of your time worrying and obsessing about the possibility of failure? One thing you’ll eventually learn on your journey to success is that your [...]

       Some people dream of great accomplishments, while others stay awake and do them. -Anonymous Many people dream about becoming successful, but few people think about preparing for success ahead of time.  When you consider that “success” is really an inner process of growth and self-mastery, you realize that it’s not just about achieving a [...]

As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those who empower others.- Bill Gates Have you often wondered if you’re missing the obvious when it comes to being successful?  If you’re still trying to achieve the level of success you desire (and most people are), ask yourself if you have been leaving [...]

Deficiency motivation doesn’t work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are. -Wayne Dyer You’ve probably heard it said that you are what you think about the most, and being successful is no exception.  There are other important facets [...]

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.- Thomas Edison Are you struggling to stay motivated on your journey to success?  Have your goals lost some of the shine they had when you first set them?  If so, you might consider whether they are big enough to [...]

Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There’s plenty of movement, but you never know if it’s going to be forward, backwards, or sideways. -H. Jackson Brown, Jr. When working toward goals or striving for success in any endeavor, self-discipline is one vital quality you need to have.  Most of us cringe [...]

Open your eyes and see the blessing hidden inside! -Wendy Mickle Have you ever noticed that every challenge also contains a blessing in disguise?  If not, you may not have been looking closely enough!  It’s true that challenges often seem like inconveniences when they get in the way of something you want.  When you’re working [...]

Sometimes taking a step back can actually be taking a step forward! -Wendy Mickle A lack of motivation can often seem to be caused by laziness or procrastination at first glance, but looks can often be deceiving!  If you’re struggling to stay motivated about working on your goals or any other endeavor, a little introspection [...]

          When you surrender, You are saying to the Universe I trust! -Wendy Mickle There are few things more maddening than running into obstacles and blockages while you’re working toward your goals!  You’ll be moving along nicely, feeling great about the progress you’re making, when all of a sudden – boom; you’re stuck.  You’ve encountered [...]

If you wait for something to happen, you will leave yourself in the Constant State of Waiting! -Wendy Mickle Have you ever hesitated to take action and gotten stuck in a rut of inertia?  Most often when this happens, you’re waiting for some internal or external clue that tells you it’s okay to move forward.  [...]

Use your imagination to create the motivation you seek! -Wendy Mickle Have you ever noticed that a lack of motivation leaves you feeling sluggish and uninspired?  One great way to turn that mind-set around is by consciously getting joyful!  Joyful about what, exactly?  Well, anything will do, but here are a few good ideas to [...]

         Success is not final and failure is not fatal it the courage to continue that counts!-Church hill Have you ever wondered what you would do with your life if you truly couldn’t fail at anything?  How would such an insight change your life?  Would you move toward your goals with stronger purpose and relentless [...]

        Most folks are as happy as they make their minds up to be! -Abraham Lincoln When you’re having trouble staying motivated it can often seem like an impossible task to pull yourself out of the slump.  Most likely you either sit immobile with a blank look of boredom on your face or you find [...]

  Are negative thoughts and beliefs preventing you from moving forward with your goals and dreams?  If so, detox your mind! Detoxification most often refers to the process of removing toxins from the body to achieve better health and well-being, but most people don’t realize that their minds can become incredibly toxic too. How do [...]

    The brave might not live forever but the cautious don’t live at all.- Ashely L Have you ever allowed fear to sap your motivation?  If so, you are probably familiar with the heavy sense of frustration that inevitably results in the abandonment of goals and dreams – no matter how badly you may want [...]

 A powerful breath of fresh air that clears away stagnation and ushers in renewed clarity and motivation. When you’re feeling unmotivated about your goals or any other endeavor, it can be difficult to keep the bigger picture in mind and remember what you’re working so hard for.  When the initial excitement of your goals or [...]